tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post8040749726450282957..comments2023-09-10T08:35:17.240-04:00Comments on Statistically Impossible: Thoughts on Child Centered AdoptionI amhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13182867182942654599noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-67780059788891029082010-09-23T17:31:15.216-04:002010-09-23T17:31:15.216-04:00We do want to speak for the voice of the child and...We do want to speak for the voice of the child and I appreciate you pointing out that we can't do that because we're still ourselves. This doesn't seem so bad, it seems as though you are referencing a bad experience where that was the case. But I will be careful from now on. :DPost-it Notehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00097784133592469783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-58281197661144953712010-08-27T15:16:26.003-04:002010-08-27T15:16:26.003-04:00There is so much that I love about this post, but ...There is so much that I love about this post, but most has already been said about your thoughtfulness and insight. I, too, loved the last two (pre-asterisk) lines. Also, thanks for prompting Kristin's comment that included, <i>"I constantly have to remind myself to stretch beyond my (hopefully) rational mind into my (often totally) irrational heart.</i> <br /><br />I was prompted to comment, however, when I looked at the post's labels. The juxtaposition of "Compassion, Rant" cracked me up. :)Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17261449180786045271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-5655130521236806262010-08-24T15:15:37.536-04:002010-08-24T15:15:37.536-04:00It hasn't ever occurred to me to spear for Pie...It hasn't ever occurred to me to spear for Pie. She's 7 months old, so all there is to say right now is that she's a happy, healthy baby.<br /><br />People say to us frequently that she will have a better life with us. I don't think better is the word, I think different is more appropriate. I'd like to think easier as well, but I know that's only partially true. Some things will be easier with us, while others will be more complicated.<br /><br />I've come to some surprising conclusions through the course of the adoption process, especially in regard to its openness. And I imagine I'll come to many more through the years.<br /><br />All I can say with certainty is that my husband and I love Pie with everything we are and want the best for her. Pie's birthparents love her with everything they are and want the best for her. We'll figure out the rest as we go.sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10407880075964040578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-64597866166171456242010-08-24T12:03:01.398-04:002010-08-24T12:03:01.398-04:00Another great post. Even in pain and on meds, you ...Another great post. Even in pain and on meds, you are thoughtful and articulate...<br /><br />I know for me, in dealing with infertility and then adoption, I constantly have to remind myself to stretch beyond my (hopefully) rational mind into my (often totally) irrational heart. This is where I find the most compassion for those who do not share my experiences or views. <br /><br />I especially love your last two lines.Kristinhttp://www.parenthoodpath.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-80175405377817431142010-08-24T08:15:50.776-04:002010-08-24T08:15:50.776-04:00So interesting how one person's insightful is ...So interesting how one person's insightful is another's naive.Campbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-53059156848322964462010-08-23T16:25:27.681-04:002010-08-23T16:25:27.681-04:00I think this post is very naive. If you want to l...I think this post is very naive. If you want to learn more about humans I suggest you read early childhood development esp. re: attachment Bowlby, Harlow at all.<br /><br />As special as we all think we are the dictates of biology are not as whimsical as one's ego may wish.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-70474560503740471822010-08-23T01:52:02.723-04:002010-08-23T01:52:02.723-04:00oh, much to say. much to say. too late and woozy t...oh, much to say. much to say. too late and woozy to say it, so expect my long winded post in the morn.<br /><br />but I will say this: I wish there were more rational people in this community, people willing to look at both sides, recognize the uniqueness of their situation, and extend compassion to others. I agree with so much of what you said, and find some fault in some of it. More later.Lia - not Junohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06676978831059304596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-21732012719308979122010-08-22T22:53:53.970-04:002010-08-22T22:53:53.970-04:00Thank you! Again, another magnificent post so wel...Thank you! Again, another magnificent post so well-articulated. I always appreciate your thoughts, and you remind us to be mindful of others. I personally believe we can support and help each other without needing to further our personal agendas or assuming our pain/joy will be what someone else will feel as well. I do believe that we all need support and love, and as human beings, we are all capable of compassion despite our different experiences.LeMirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02196699524583350846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-22051617738882029712010-08-22T18:12:51.534-04:002010-08-22T18:12:51.534-04:00yes, yes.
I love your interpretations of the sta...yes, yes. <br /><br />I love your interpretations of the statements of others. so much of what we ascribe to others is sheer projection, adoption-related or not. <br /><br />I'd be interested to read your future post on the commonality of loss among adoptive and birth parents. I've had several conversations with our daughter's birth mother about this, but I've always been wary to draw any similarities between the preterm loss of my son and the placement of her daughter. but to me, at heart, we are two women who very much loved our babies who could not, for one reason or another, parent them.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-33951033250844048932010-08-22T14:09:16.235-04:002010-08-22T14:09:16.235-04:00Awesome! Very well said. You rock.Awesome! Very well said. You rock.Meg and Kenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08389282509165129192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9171749502502490378.post-47933696452662724012010-08-22T13:08:19.304-04:002010-08-22T13:08:19.304-04:00This is a very insightful post and I thank you for...This is a very insightful post and I thank you for it.<br /><br />Let me be the first to say to you, Iam, that I certainly can't understand what you and Athena have gone and are going through but be certain that I do care anyway. For that matter, as an adult adopted in a closed, domestic, infant adoption situation 47 years ago, I don't understand all that Festus will deal with in his particular adoption situation but again, care anyway.Campbellhttp://campbellscoup.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com